April 25th 2014 (2) comments so far
Lately, I can’t stand the song “One is the Loneliest Number.” Not because it is a terrible song, but because it has been hitting a little too close to home. After graduating college and moving out of my parents’ house, I am flying solo during this season of life. There are days that I am cool with it and enjoy the freedom. There are also days that I am lonely and look at puppies on Petfinder for way too long.
Although the lack of a romantic relationship is certainly part of this stage, it is not the main reason I feel socially quarantined. Would it be nice to check the “plus one” box on a wedding RSVP for once, or have someone besides my mother who cares about how my day went? Sure, but this brand of solitary is more about a loss of community.
I am not in the school and youth group phase anymore, a time when I formed relationships with little meaningful effort. In adulthood, I am finding that integrating into a community (or maintaining an existing one) demands significantly more work. Not having much luck in that department, I have felt like I am in limbo, stuck somewhere on a solo journey between college and functional adulthood.
In a practical sense, these times of limbo are all too real. Time between graduating school and getting married, stretches of unemployment, or your first few weeks in a new city can be lonesome stages of life when solitude is unavoidable. There is a valid feeling of emptiness from being physically alone. It is a part of our imperfect humanity.
Funny thing is there will never be a point in your life where you have “fixed” your loneliness. You can get married, have kids, join a community group in your church, and have a great relationship with your family; loneliness will not end just because you surround yourself with people.
Deuteronomy 31:8 illustrates a concept that all Christians know, but most have trouble believing: God’s omnipresence. The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged. We know in our heads that God never leaves our side, but for most (and visual people like me especially) it is difficult to believe when you feel alone. It just does not feel like anyone is there.
Most of the time, experiencing God’s presence will not be an instant-fix, never-feel-alone-again deal. It is an act of faith, trusting that He is always with you and using that as your strength through loneliness. It is not the solution we desire, but it is the only reliable option.
God knows that you feel lonely right now. He has promised to be there beside you to help you conquer it.
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